So much has changed for me within the last year and half. And over the last year, I have definitely learned that comparing yourself to others around you, is not the way to go. However, it was so easy to do!
There were days when, after meeting with friends and hearing of their great achievements or how they managed situations, I would think back to what I had done and compare. Thoughts like, “Why didn’t I do that?” or “How did they cope, there’s no way I could?”, were quite common thoughts. And it actually started to affect me on a personal, mental and emotional level.
I was never the type of person that compared or felt insecure about my shortfalls or mistakes. I had always held the belief that if we weren’t making mistakes, then we weren’t trying to grow. But something shifted in me! I don’t know what or why, but it did.
I started doubting myself. Started questioning everything I did and lacked confidence to carry out certain tasks that in the past, I would think twice about. It was a tedious and unsettling place to be.
Thankfully though, I was aware of this shift and how it was affecting me and my overall ability to live my life. I guess I was lucky that I had the self-awareness to identify the change. But that was only one step. The next step, was to stop the habit of comparing…and ultimately, doubting my abilities. One thing I started telling myself that made an automatic impact was, “Don’t compare celebrate!” So I did.
Each day, I would take stock of my life, what I managed to achieve in the day, week or month and celebrate it. I also made the habit of reflecting back over my goals and how far I came. I would reward myself for whatever challenge I did manage to overcome or master, no matter how anybody else did it. In a nutshell, these are the things I learned and implemented to help me get on track to a confident and fulfilled self.
- Started with a daily gratitude list (cliche I know, but it works)
- Created some small, realistic goals to work on and review
- Reward myself with each milestone, whether it be a small gift, dinner out, or just openly acknowledging the milestones
- Created a ‘goal’ board that visually tracked how far I have come and what I have achieved.
These were just some little things I did to help me remember my value and worth, and also, reminded me to celebrate the little things. Not everyone is on the same path; and that is okay! Whatever you have going on in your life and whatever it is you achieve, be proud of it and remember to CELEBRATE IT!!!